20 ways you know you are a special needs sibling

Siblings of children with additional needs are an amazing bunch. They have a bit more on their plates than some, but when the chips are down it is this lot I’d want fighting in my corner. You know you are a sibling to a special needs dude when…

  1. Every ache, sprain or pain is met with a “you’ll be fine”.  Small stuff is not sweated over. No one is getting ruffled here unless there is a leg actually hanging off. Or at least a toe.
  2. You have a feast or famine existence. One minute you are shooed away at every turn as your parents focus on your sibling. The next you are the centre of the universe, with whole days dedicated to your honour. What would you like our little prince/princess? Anything you want. Name it. It’s yours.
  3. You become a one-man Blue Badge enforcer and check cars for appropriate documentation at every turn. Everyone is a potential suspect. MI5 have you on the recruitment database for when you leave school.
  4. You go to the cinema with a friend and you can’t believe normal folk have to park at the back of car parks. Worse, “some” people have to drive around and around looking for spaces. Peasants.
  5. You can recite words like hypotonia and tortuous aortic arch and know the meaning of phrases such as DLA, ADHD and IEP, yet can’t spell umbrella.
  6. You never have to worry that much about where your mum and dad are of an evening because they are always in. Every 3 years they might get a babysitter.
  7. When everyone laughs at that boy in your class who falls over his shoelaces (again), you pat them gently on the back as you pass.
  8. You understand that almost everything can be resolved with a cup of tea and a Double Decker.
  9. Difference is something you are comfortable with and strive to make everyone else feel the same way about.
  10. You get that riches are not money (but you still want an X-box from Santa).
  11. When the going gets tough, you can rely on your mum pulling on the metaphorical boxing gloves and going ‘nuclear’ on someone.
  12. You can find the humour in the bleakest of situations, but the smallest thing can make you cry.
  13. You think that your Mum works at Facebook the amount of time she spends ‘checking in’ and ‘talking’ to people on her phone.
  14. You know that if the TV is on and there is movement downstairs at 4am, there is a strong probability that you’ll have chippy for tea.
  15. Frustration, guilt, resentment and jealously sometimes all want to play together in your head. Love and patience though usually sort them all out (and put them back to bed).
  16. You’ve bruised your bum more than once rolling off the physio ball in a Total Wipeout-style challenge.
  17. So has your Dad.
  18. You are quite open about your “feelings” as you are actively encouraged to discuss everything at home. Even if too many conversations revolve around bowel movements (and not usually your own).
  19. You are a superhero. All day. Every day. People can live a long life and never once see the look of awe you get from your sibling from just walking in the room.
  20. You live in a world where the smallest of victories are celebrated and you are all the more wealthy for it.

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5 Comments on 20 ways you know you are a special needs sibling

  1. Talya
    November 12, 2015 at 2:32 pm (7 years ago)

    This is a lovely post hon and you know I never thought about it this way going to prove the silver lining theory all over….Thanks so much for linking to #coolmumclub xx

    • Alison
      November 17, 2015 at 11:33 am (7 years ago)

      They really are!! Although they have their days… 😉

  2. Jane Scott
    November 26, 2015 at 8:42 am (7 years ago)

    I love this! You made me laugh loads-this is just what it’s like in our house who knew the Bristol Stool Chart could be such a fundamental conversation starter!

    • Alison
      November 26, 2015 at 11:39 am (7 years ago)

      They are probably all going to work in the medical profession with their poo knowledge ha x


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